A tenet often held to be the truth is hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. It may be sunny, but it can’t hurt to have an umbrella nearby just in case.
Contingency plans pay for themselves in most cases. Envisioning potential scenarios and subsequently planning for them can save time, money, and anguish.
However, this type of strategy comes with a negative connotation when applied to the scope of an intimate relationship.
If you or your partner has a backup plan or an exit strategy, it’s often associated with a fear of commitment, the inability to be all-in.
So many people approach relationships from a sunny day perspective. But, inevitably, one day, it may rain. And hopefully, you’re not stuck without an umbrella.
Let’s consider a common scenario…
You and your spouse are in a loving relationship. You’re both employed. Collectively you live together, split expenses, household duties, go out on dates, and share holidays.
For the most part, things are going well.
Marriage is something you internally consider, but there’s no external pressure, and things are going well, so why change anything?
Then an unexpected but pleasant surprise of pregnancy occurs. Things are still on the up and up, but you’ve added familial and financial pressures.
The dynamic shifts when your partner loses their job. That may cause them to abuse drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism. As a result, they start slacking from household responsibilities.
Considering your own and your child’s best interest, you break up and find another place to live.
However, given your ex’s current state of mind and the recent company, they keep you’re concerned with the dangers of simply splitting child custody.
The problem is a court needs documented proof to alter a child custody agreement.
That’s where Magnum Investigations comes in. We always bring our umbrellas because people often lie and hide the truth in relationships and after divorce.
