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Surveillance Case Study: Southern Rendezvous

Our client indicated that her husband decided not to go on a family vacation because he instead needed to stay home to work. A few days before the client was to leave for her trip, her husband indicated that he would visit his male friend for a few days in a Southern State.

However, when the client asked him for an itinerary, he was very evasive and delayed in providing one. Two days before her departure, her husband finally provided a copy of a very cheap one-way airline reservation and stated he wasn’t sure when exactly he would return. He booked the most affordable ticket he could find for no other reason than an attempt to throw his wife off his trail.

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14 Factors that Determine Alimony Payments

The emotional turmoil of a marriage breaking down, and ultimately resulting in divorce, can weigh heavy on an individual. However, while the financial ramifications may seem like a secondary concern at the moment, it is extremely important to understand how different aspects of both parties lives are accounted for to reach a monthly sum and duration for alimony payments.

It’s important to recognize that alimony isn’t calculated from an exact formula, instead a lot is left up to the judge’s discretion as he/she examines these 14 factors.

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Infidelity May be About Your Spouse, But It Effects Your Children

child-holding-legRelationships often start off simple, based on physical attraction, as time goes by the dimensions and/or depth of that interaction augments and increases. Injecting children into that equation dramatically shifts the established nature of that relationship. As a result, it makes sense that a landmark event, such as infidelity, will not  simply impact a couple but also the child or children that sit  on the sidelines as innocent bystanders.

Of course the ideal relationship avoids infidelity and therefore bypasses the hazards that it presents. However, reality is often not a fairy tale, So, how should we address adultery when dealing with our children. Should we present a brave face hoping to maintain the ideal of their parents’ relationship as a means of enlisting optimism in a safeguarding manner. Should we be brutally honest, presenting the facts exposing them to reality in a manner that might change their opinion of their mother or father in a negative light? Read More→

Lessons Learned From Infidelity

logo_cheating_expertsInfidelity is not your fault because cheating is an act that has everything to do with your unfaithful partner and nothing to do with you. Your spouse’s behavior is not a reflection of you as cheating is a unilateral decision, made without you. On the other hand, your marital problems are your fault. The failure of a marriage cannot be entirely attributed to one partner; especially in the cases where one spouse is unfaithful, because no one can be the perfect partner all of the time, even when a marriage is strong.

Cheating has little to do with money, appearance, education, or social status. None of these things matter for you or the person with whom your spouse cheats. We often comment when a spouse leaves his or her partner for someone who is less successful, less educated, less attractive and less respected in the community but what really matters is how we feel in our partners company and anything else takes a distant second place.

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Handling Divorce During Holiday Season

Stress and anxiety are often the markers that accompany tradition and cheer over the holidays. These negative aspects can be magnified by the presence of a new or ongoing divorce proceeding. Like much of one’s daily routine, the norms of the holidays may be forced to alter as individuals adapt to a single lifestyle and this only becomes further complicated when children are involved. So the big question is how should you deal with it all?

First, you need to admit and recognize that the circumstances have changed. You might have a smaller income but more expenses, adjust the amount you purchase or the gifts you give account for this. Everyone doesn’t require a gift; trimming the fat is necessary; those individuals whom you care about, and who hopefully reciprocate the gesture, will have knowledge of your ongoing situation and realize that gift giving is lower on the priority list than in the past. Temper your children’s expectations in as thoughtful/considerate a means as possible, because like you, their worldview in also changing.

Next, embrace the possibilities of a clean slate. Your obligations to your former spouse and their family/friends may no longer apply. That could create free time to embrace the endeavors you have wanted to take part in the past but were unable to attend. Indulge in activities of your own choosing whether that is with friends new or old. Venture to a new place as an escape or enjoy the comforts of home unencumbered. The key is that the choices are all yours; bask in the power to choose and choose yourself.

Divorce, especially over the holidays, can make for tough sledding. The adjustment continues, embrace the possibilities rather than dwelling in the doldrums of divorce.

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