We assess the previous year as a new year begins, acknowledging our shortcomings and successes. Similarly, many romantic relationships utilize Valentine’s day as a touchstone.
- Were are you on your trajectory as a couple?
- What are the next steps in your relationship?
- Should you live together?
- Are you ready to buy a home?
- Do you plan to get married and become parents?
These life-altering discussions and decisions are things that you might consider as February 14 approaches.
Couples that have experienced or been through infidelity may not anticipate Valentine’s Day as an occasion to celebrate their love. But, conversely, it may serve as a reminder of broken promises and promiscuity.
The restaurant where you had your first date no longer feels perfect. That song you both used to sing in the car isn’t sincere. Now it’s just silly.
How do you pick up the pieces and rebuild the relationship after infidelity?
As is the case in most situations, communication is the key. You and your partner should be open and discuss your residual pain, its causes, and triggers.
Now is the time to refresh and reinvigorate your relationship with new experiences instead of stale traditions.
Make the moments fun and heartfelt.
Expect nothing and be available for everything.
Remember that history is a learning tool, and the next chapter is yet to be written.
