To a large extent the dissolution of a marriage comes as surprise to those personally involved. In fact, that unexpected shock can hit like a lightning bolt. The reasoning is simple, one typically doesn’t enter into a marriage with designs of the situation being a temporary one. Depending on the circumstances, living arraignments, children financial dependence/independence, the transitional period will present on the one hand obstacles, and on the other opportunities. If children are involved, working around a financial pinch whilst juggling their/ your adjusting life-style, could presumably pry at one’s emotive core.
However, as one thing ends another begins. Divorce can offer your life a relatively clean slate (assuming hopefully that litigation is a swift and streamlined process, rather than a long drawn out venture.) Divorce creates an opportunity for reevaluation and reinvention. Determine what your own priorities are and what your shortcomings and negative attributes are? Can you handle aspects of your life differently moving forward? What were the unexpected roadblocks? Now that you can see them in the distance, you can come better prepared to conquer them moving forward. In essence it is a perfect time to become a better version of yourself.
Being single again can be very challenging. However through the trial and error, you’ll learn what you are truly capable of and subsequently the values you appreciate in others. Failure should not be associated with finality but rather as part of the learning process. Once you determine the temporary shortcomings which lead to failure, you’ll be able to adjust, adapt, and possibly find a future spouse whom is better aligned with the individual you are now. Change can be a tricky scary endeavor, but avoiding issues out of fearing change only prolongs the period of time needed to build anew.
