Infidelity is the action which gathers the most glaring attention when a relationship is on the skids. However, the reality is that cheating is often the grand gesture or tipping point of a situation that has gone bad. Below, we will discuss a handful of the circumstances that can put a couple on the path to failure.
- Activities: part of the connection which binds two individual is the simpatico or compatibility. In simple terms a couple gets each other. They each can have unique interests, hobbies etc. However, they understand where the other is coming from and appreciate and spend time together experiencing these activities. Now over the course of time, one’s interests may change. Work and other responsibilities can shift the priority scale. However, a couple which has a hard time making time for each other will more easily grow apart.
- Attraction: Physical looks may not be the end and be all that defines a couple. However, intimacy is often an indicator of how things are going. Clearly, we all won’t look youthful forever, but intimacy maintains that physical connection; and links into our next point.
- Appreciation: Anyone can become the victim of habit or routine. However, that becomes an issue when we fail to recognize what each other does that benefits both of our lives. Some of the most common things which are taken for granted are household chores (cooking, cleaning, laundry, maintenance, grocery shopping, bill paying etc.) Over time this actions can occur as if on autopilot, but it doesn’t mean that they should be taken for granted.
- Finances: Many households disagree over the way in which the mighty dollar is spent. This can aggravated by income inequality between spouses or disagreements over how money should be spent regarding purchases etc. The point being, you should try your best to be on the sam page regarding the checkup.
These are some of the underlying smaller elephants in the room of a relationship that cause friction that when left un resolved may lead to an unhappy conclusion.