Building or developing trust within an intimate relationship becomes increasingly tricky the older or more experienced one becomes.
Evolution of Trust
When you are young and naive, opening up and trusting someone else with your emotional vulnerability may come quickly and can sometimes be utilized to relieve yourself of internal demons.
It may sound like a cliche. However, experience often shifts one’s perspective. Unfortunately, most relationships don’t last. As a result, having been previously let down, you may become less trusting and more guarded in future relationships.
Changing the Parameters of a Relationship
One’s relationship history often lies in the background, providing context for their concerns and pitfalls. Now, let’s consider a new wrinkle…
What happens when the context of a current relationship changes?
What if you were
- Casually hooking up
- Then in an open relationship
- Then became exclusive
Considerations
How do you react if there were indiscretions in the past? How long are those actions fair game for trust concerns? Can you ever get over it? Or does the past always travel with you like a shadow? Is it best to forgive but never forget? Should the infidelity slate be wiped clean at some point?
A Reddit user recently explained their relationship circumstances, opening up to get advice online. Should he forgive and forget, be cautiously optimistic, or move on?
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